Success in Trying

Too often, people decide to listen to fear!  Too often, they say they are unable before they ever try.  Sometimes, we decide to not try things, because we are afraid of failure.  How did we learn to do the things we already do?  Is it not because we left our comfort zones and reach for new abilities?  It is true, that sometimes when we try new things we will seem to fail, but that depends on how we look at life.  Is it failure if we have learned from the experiences of life, if we have memories, or if we were willing to stretch ourselves?  Is that not already success?  If we never reach we will never grasp what might be. 

Sometimes, what we try to accomplish may not come out the way we would like.  Sometimes, though, we will succeed in completed the tasks before us, and we may even learn new enjoyments and talents.  But if we listen to the voice that tells us to quit and to fear, we will become our own worse enemy.  We may even miss out on some of the greatest joys and life fulfillments.  Do not let the unknown keep you from trying.  For without trying, nothing is ever learned or accomplished.  Are you willing to try?

 

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The Road of Our Choosing

There are many roads which men and women take in life that directly affect their future.  Some roads seem to be simpler and less stressful, and some are difficult and challenging.  Most desire to walk down the road that look easy.  It may be a job that mentally unchallenging and with little responsibility.  It may be choosing a divorce over continuing to try to work things out and stay married.  Some may choose to take another job instead of having time with their children, because they didn’t want to sacrifice possessions.  Others may choose their own recreation and comfort over training and teaching their children.  Some allow their children to make their own hard decisions instead of being strong and leading them to better choices. 

Yet, the difficult and challenging road is the road that will lead to growth, success, and a fulfilling life.  It is those who pushed through challenges and hardships that made the greatest difference in others.  The choices that mean standing against the tide of those around are the ones who produce changes and excitement.  It is the weak and selfish that always take the easy road.  I am accountable for the choices I make, and each person will defend those choices before our Creator.

Your future is made up of your choices.  Are you taking just what the world gives you or are you choosing the life that you want?  Be strong and courageous and challenge yourself to go after the hard things.  True joy will be knowing you accomplished what few ever will.  The roads are before you, and the choices are yours.  Just remember, the consequences will follow.  

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Consequences for Chasing Companionship

Companionship is one of the greatest desires in men.  It is amazing what people will accept in order to have someone else in their lives.  How many times have we seen women allow themselves to suffer physical and mental abuse for fear they can’t get anyone else?  How many times have people overlooked unfaithfulness because they “love” the person?  I have seen some who are willing to lose friendships, family, jobs, and a host of other things because they are afraid of being alone in their home.  They search for that special someone and say they are looking for love, happiness, or a family, but what they really desire is companionship. 

Why are people willing to leave almost everything they know and have to either get or keep that one person, who usually is not that great in the first place?  I believe there are many reasons people choose the way they do, but several influence people the greatest.  The first is because we were created by God to want to be around others.  This desire was from the beginning, and our lives are meant to be shared.  But I believe the main reason people will give up so many things (many times even who they really are) for one person is fear.  Fear drives men to do many things, and fear of being alone is one of the greatest fears in man.  Some marry the first person who comes along because they are afraid they won’t get anybody else.  Some live with unfaithful mates, because they are afraid to live their lives without them.  Really they are afraid of their own weaknesses.  Some will choose to chase that special person even if it means losing their family and friends, because they fear growing old by themselves.  Fear is a driving force of those who lack any vision or faith for the future.  Some choose that one person because they hope in something greater than what they have now.  They are trying to fill a void caused by other choices they have made.

Whatever the reason, there are great consequences in chasing companionship in only one person.  Too many times, we lose more than we gain.  Disappointment, loneliness, depression, sadness, a lack of self-esteem, and a loss of what we had or could of had all may be faced by chasing happiness through an individual’s companionship.   Many end up getting what they have feared all along. 

There is nothing wrong with companionship.  God made us to desire it, but happiness does not come from it alone.  We must be careful that we are not putting all of our hopes and desires in one person who no matter what will have flaws.  You may lose the best part of life in the process.  Build your happiness on fulfilling the purpose God wants for your life, and be careful that you are not building your life on a fictional dream. 

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Life’s Masterpiece

Life is a puzzle that we are constantly constructing.  Each choice we make and each experience we encounter shapes the lifestyles and positions in which each of us finds ourselves.   Our lives are an outcome of our successes and our failures, and with each new decision comes a new designed work of art.  Some lives seem to become masterpieces, while some look like a child’s drawing.  Yet, each has value to someone, for who would deny the value of a child’s drawing to their mother.  The failures we experience changes forever the way we act and feel, but it is those same failures who make each life unique.  Failures look like flaws, but is it not the flaws in a masterpiece that identifies it as authentic.  Can we not say that our failures may actually be more critical than our successes in determining our view of life?  Successes are what we desire to do and what most desire, yet it is the failures we do not prepare for usually.  Each success and failure are individually experienced.

Life can be very complicated and challenging, but we must face and accept each choice as ours.  We may not always like every piece of this puzzle of life, but the consequences are still going to be experienced.  We must humble ourselves and realize that sometimes there are pains, sadness, frustrations, and fears, but there are also great joys, blessings, and exciting experiences as well.  The hardest part is living with ourselves.  Humans mess up so many times, and these are the times to reveal our weaknesses.  We must not pout or get angry, but get up and face the reality of our own life choices.  Like the painting of Mona Lisa, we may have to paint over some moments in life. 

So, I know that it is easy to blame others for where our life is today, but really it is our own responsibility.  Some parts of life are just a part of living, but much of life is a making of our own.  It is sad to see people in the low moments because of a lack of consideration before decisions, or because they let their weaknesses get the best of them.  The only thing a person can do then is stand up and recreate the puzzle again, and in the end we can hope all the pieces will fit together to create something wonderful!  Let God shape you.  God has placed us each just as He has desired.  Live with you choices and try to look for successes and accept your failures.  You can rise up with God and learn to be at peace.  All things work together for good to those who love the Lord…

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The Hidden Warrior

So many people have influenced my life, and I am thankful for those who have been great mentors in my life.  We all have been influenced by others both positively and negatively, and we probably have influenced others in our own lives without sometimes even knowing it.  In fact most people have a great desire to make an impact in our world in some fashion, and that impact happens one person at a time.

Influence is how a leader brings others toward specific goals. Some have position influence (influence because they were placed in charge), while successful leaders have influence based on their behavior and abilities. A good leader knows how to encourage, build, and motivate others by kindness and goals sold to those they lead. Sometimes a leader must be vocal and make themselves very public. This is especially true when there may be criticisms. A leader must not place those they lead into vulnerable positions. Leaders may have to stand up for principles and push forward. Yet, sometimes leaders must be hidden warriors. They must soar above the challenges and lead in private. The advise given to others so they can use their abilities and influence is in itself influence. The work done that is done even when few notice can lead to successful outcomes and goals.

Many are afraid of not being heard or not getting credit for their work. They want to be brazen and in the spotlight. Over time these will lose their true influence and possibly their respect. We have a choice of how we lead, and that choice may lead to success or failure. Don’t forget that true leadership looks only to how they can receive successful outcomes, no matter the direction that it gets there. The hidden, quiet warrior may gain not only success, but more influence and trust with others. The impacts we have in secret, may lead to much greater success and bigger changes in the world around us.

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Facing the facts

Before making a decision, I want to know all the facts in order to be informed on why a decision should be made a certain way.  To many people, facts get in the way of their pursuits and hidden agendas, and they would rather hide them from others.  I don’t know if they just don’t want the input of others or if they are blind themselves to the truth. 

Our decisions to speak before we have the facts or to push agendas without understanding the surrounding or the atmosphere will bring embarrassment, regret, anger, and a weakened influence.  Sometimes being pushy and loud will make others back down and give in to things.  Maybe the person believes that is what others desire or what is best.  Yet, over times people will only get frustrated and stand up for what they believe is right.  The scriptures tell us to do nothing from selfishness (Philippians 2), and that means that we must be willing to work with others.  I have seen a great deal of hurt and troubles come from choices to do things dishonestly or too forcefully.  Know the facts, and find what is right.  Learn when to speak and when not to speak.  Stand up for what you believe in, but work for the good of others and with others.  The consequences of overreaching may be life changing. 

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Working against entitlement

Outside my house, today, there were workers who were removing pieces of sidewalk and replacing it with new concrete.  It is below freezing outside and there is snow and ice on the ground, but these men are working anyway.  I hate the cold and cannot imagine doing that kind of work, but I sat and admired the choices of these men.  I know many will say that they had to do it to provide a living, but we all know that many are receiving money without working today. 

These men chose to get up and work in the bitter cold to provide for their families and/or their needs and wants.  Many today think they are owed much of what they have.  In fact many choose not to work rather than take a hard or challenging job.  I don’t know the education or talents of these doing the work outside, but most would say this isn’t what they waited their whole lives to do.  These men, though, still realized that self-respect comes from doing your part in life.  They made a choice to help society in whatever way that they could. 

All of us have choices like these in life.  It is sad that many choose to live an entitled life instead of one that brings joy and self-worth.  These are the consequences of the poor lifestyle choices they have made.  The humble life can bring great happiness and awareness.  I honor these men for choosing a path that many are too lazy to take.  I must remember that it is my duty to give the Lord all I can in life to fulfill my love for God and my love for mankind.  The consequences of failing may mean frustration, depression, bitterness, and punishment.  Remember to not only work to provide for your physical needs, but work hard for the soul’s needs. 

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Time’s value

Our busy lives can leave us with very little time to do the things that we really want to do,  How many times have we been too busy to take time to play with our children, talk to a mate, or visit with friends because we have things that need to be done?  Our society gives us many responsibilities and roles that consume the precious time we have on earth.  I have seen parents who completely missed out on their children’s lives because of focusing on other areas of life.  They look at their adult children and don’t really even know who they are.  This is sad, but a reality in our world.  I am not saying that you shouldn’t fulfill your responsibilities, because life can be challenging, and some things must be done.  Yet, are we choosing to spend time on what is truly important?

Everyone has the same amount of hours in a day and can spend them in the way they choose.  You choose to work (This is a good thing), sleep, eat, and fill your time with what you see is valuable.  It is your choice if you turn off the TV, forgo a recreational activity, or take time from cleaning, organizing, sleeping, and other daily choirs, so that you can train your children.  You have a choice if you turn down overtime to spend an evening with your mate.  We all choose if we are going to search for success by worldly standards, or work in order to please God. 

Many have made choices that destroyed their marriages, lost friendships, caused stress, and hurt their children.  Some are disappointed to realize that their children are not what they should be, because they, as parents, have failed in one of the most important roles on earth.  Our choices mean consequences that may be hard to live with.  Use your time wisely, because you don’t get it back.  How are you using your time?  Are you focused on living the way God would desire?  Are you nurturing your family?  Are you helping your friends?  They are your choices, and your life’s happiness will be determined by them,

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Chasing Power

What will people not do for power?  Some will walk on friends, hurt family, and even do things illegal or immoral in order to be able to get their way.  Yet power that is taken is not as beneficial as power that is given.  Some of the most powerful people are those that stay in the backgrounds.  Some demand their way, others lead others to see things as they do.  Many businesses, homes, and even churches are destroyed by those who are selfish and chase power.  When you get your way by underhanded works, it is to your own detrement.  People will learn of your pursuits, and in the end, “your sin will find you out.” 

We each make choices each day on what is important to us in life.  Each of us must be aware that we live with the consequences of our pursuits.  We can choose to push and force our own agendas on others, and the outcome will be a loss of healthy relationships, trust, and true respect. If we lead by listening, encouraging, and sharing the glory, your leadership will be established.  This will help you have a more productive, joyful, and peaceful life.  Be careful of what you are chasing for it will affect your life.

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Chasing Power

What will people not do for power?  Some will walk on friends, hurt family, and even do things illegal or immoral in order to be able to get their way.  Yet power that is taken is not as beneficial as power that is given.  Some of the most powerful people are those that stay in the backgrounds.  Some demand their way, others lead others to see things as they do.  Many businesses, homes, and even churches are destroyed by those who are selfish and chase power.  When you get your way by underhanded works, it is to your own detrement.  People will learn of your pursuits, and in the end, “your sin will find you out.” 

We each make choices each day on what is important to us in life.  Each of us must be aware that we live with the consequences of our pursuits.  We can choose to push and force our own agendas on others, and the outcome will be a loss of healthy relationships, trust, and true respect. If we lead by listening, encouraging, and sharing the glory, your leadership will be established.  This will help you have a more productive, joyful, and peaceful life.  Be careful of what you are chasing for it will affect your life.

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